We will counsel you on your unspeakable concerns.
- National Competition on Worries! - National Competition on Worries!
Let me introduce today's guests. Park Mi Sun!
Hello. I'm Park Mi Sun.
Kim Jong Min!
(Kim Jong Min, Cheerful Fool)
Ji Yeon of T-ara!
(Ji Yeon of T-ara)
And Peter Han!
Peter Han!
It feels like we're on vacation.
Let's help our audience beat the heat today.
Do you like watermelon?
- Yes! - Yes!
Let's have a watermelon party!
(It's a watermelon party.)
- Shall I give these out? - Yes, please.
(The panelists give the audience watermelon!)
Please pass it around.
(One bite makes you fall into the taste of watermelon.)
(It's so sweet.)
(Stay cool this summer.)
- Please introduce yourself. - Okay.
I'm Peter Han. I'm from Vienna, Austria.
- You're from Vienna? - Yes, I am.
- Peter prepared something special. - You should quit drinking.
- He'll sing a summer song for us. - I see.
(Please sing us a summer song.)
(She's doing a funny act with a watermelon seed.)
(In search of the water in the valley)
(Let's go on a trip)
(His tender voice melts women's hearts.)
(Watermelon is melting in my mouth.)
(He performs greatly as a musician from the city of music.)
I hear you have a few worries.
- What kind of worries? - Before the show started,
she kept saying that it's so hard.
It really is hard.
This year marks the 30th anniversary of my debut.
- It's been 30 years? - Yes.
I'm going to hold a dinner show to celebrate my 30th anniversary.
I'll use the profit for helping out my junior comedians.
Male comedians rarely do that for their junior comedians.
We have three stories today.
Show us the keywords please.
(The keywords are revealed.)
- "I Am Frustrated". - "Why Did You Get Married?"
"Overly Affectionate Dad".
"Why Did You Get Married?"
- Is she from Chungcheong Province? - Yes, she is.
Hello. I'm a housewife in my 40s who wishes to turn back time.
17 years ago, my husband asked me...
in a shy manner,
"Do you like travelling, by any chance?"
"No. I don't like travelling so much."
"That's good. Let's get married."
- He doesn't like travelling. - What does that mean?
- Is marriage that simple to him? - What does that mean?
- My gosh. - I think I was out of my mind.
I didn't know that my answer would drag me down like this.
It's because my husband works without a break.
"What should I do? I think the baby is coming out."
"Go and give birth to our baby. I have to work."
Oh, no.
I gave birth to all three babies without him because he was working.
- My gosh. - She must've been lonely.
Even on the day of the accident...
when my car fell off the cliff and I scrapped it,
despite what happened,
my husband went to work.
- He works too hard. - That's not all.
"Daughter, why don't you keep your diary during your summer break?"
"Isn't that your homework?"
"I have nothing to write about! We didn't go anywhere!"
My husband puts his work before his family.
- Please help me convince him. - My gosh.
(Please help me convince him!)
- He's a workaholic. - That's right.
Mi Sun, why did you decide to marry Lee Bong Won?
We have the same values in life.
That's funny. You made us laugh.
(Whatever you say.)
All the other couples say the same thing.
I'll tell you that.
Because I worked with them as their junior comedian,
I know everything about them.
One time, all the comedians gathered to go on a trip together.
We drank a lot there.
Bong Won got drunk.
However, at that time,
- no one knew they were dating. - No one knew?
He said, "Bring Mi Sun to me! Bring her to me right now!"
"Bring my Mi Sun to me!"
He didn't say "my Mi Sun"!
He always exaggerates stories.
I'm a comedian. I should exaggerate stories.
Don't think what a comedian says is all true.
He was the only man who daunted me.
I appreciated his values.
He was so manly. That's why I married him.
If you could get married again, what kind of man would you marry?
I would never get married again.
- I wish I lived alone like you. - No.
As I've been single, I would get married early.
So that I can get married several times.
I deeply regret that I didn't.
- If I were born again... - You'd be my first husband.
- Sorry? - You'd be my first husband.
- Me? I'd be born a plant. - Make sure to be there.
- A plant? - I'd be born a plant.
You may be eaten by her.
I should be born a poisonous mushroom.
It's a story of a wife whose husband doesn't care about his family.
Let's bring her out. Please come out.
(Who could be the wife of a workaholic husband?)
(Shin Sun Ae)
(She didn't come down the slide.)
Please introduce yourself.
Hello. I'm Shin Sun Ae. I'm from Cheongju.
Welcome, Sun Ae.
- Welcome. - She's bubbly.
- She said hello so nicely. - Exactly.
She didn't come down the slide because of her back problem.
What does your husband do for a living?
Actually, we...
(What?)
- We run... - She sounds different now.
Do you always speak like that?
Yes, this is how I always speak.
- That's cool. - I'm glad she's here.
He never takes a day off. He works even on Sundays.
Are you not speaking like that on purpose?
No, I'm not.
- You sound so different now. - I always speak like this.
How did you say hello before?
"Hello."
(Hello)
It looks like a comedy skit.
She practiced to say this in Seoul accent.
- She looks like Yeong Ja's sister. - She does, indeed.
- What does he do for a living? - He's a workaholic.
- What's his occupation? - He runs a udon restaurant?
The restaurant isn't open 24 hours, is it?
- It's closed at 2am. - 2am?
Did he really propose to you like that?
He asked, "Do you like travelling?"
I said, "No, I don't like it so much."
Then, he said, "Okay then. Let's get married."
- My goodness. - So we got married.
How long did you two date before getting married?
We spent a night together on our 1st date and got married 4 weeks later.
- You got married four weeks later? - Yes, we did.
Did you say you spent a night with him on your first date?
- Yes, we did. On our first date. - That's so cool.
Oh, gosh.
- Even before getting married? - Yes.
I thought that's what everyone else does.
It was our first night together.
You should spend your 1st night together on your 1st date.
Absolutely.
(That's what the first night really means.)
That's why it's called the first night.
- She's right. - Of course.
You should've gone home on your first date.
No.
(She makes a gesture to Dong Yeob.)
All right.
- Let's move on. - She wants to move on.
(She knows how to host a show!)
(She's so funny!)
How did you meet your husband?
I met him at my friend's wedding.
Suddenly, she's speaking in Seoul accent again.
I'm sure her friend's wedding was held in Seoul.
- Actually... - She's like Jekyll and Hyde.
He was wearing a sweat pants, a jumper, and a cap...
- at the wedding. - Your husband was?
- He dressed like that at a wedding. - He didn't wear a suit?
He wasn't wearing a suit.
I found him weird. The first thing he said to me was,
"Are you married or single?"
- It was ridiculous. - Men usually compliment a woman.
(The thought of it still makes her upset.)
"What are you going to do if I'm single?"
Anyway, he liked me.
He came up to me while dancing, and asked me to dance.
He asked me to dance, so we danced together.
He started to sweat.
He lifted up his hat and wiped his forehead like this.
He had such a big forehead.
- It was too big. - Had he...
- lost some hair in this part? - Yes.
However, he appeared in my dream three years after that.
He must've left a strong impression.
Yes, he did. Also, There was no man around me.
- I couldn't find anyone. - You had no choice.
- My father was... - She's so funny.
in the hospital for severe liver cirrhosis.
- I'm sorry to hear that. - I was told to prepare emotionally.
The doctor said that my father would pass away in three months.
My father said he wished to see his youngest child to get married.
- Are you the youngest child? - Yes, I am.
At that time, he appeared in my dream.
- Your husband? - Yes, my husband.
- You two were meant to be. - Did you rush into marriage...
- because of your father? - Yes, I did.
I rushed my marriage because of my father,
and he lived 10 years longer than expected.
- He must've been happy. - He was very happy.
He must've been happy.
There are many people who run a restaurant,
but they rarely open their restaurants every single day.
- We have three daughters. - I see.
He even worked when I gave birth to our children.
I stayed in the hospital for a week after giving birth to our youngest,
but he didn't visit me.
- One week? - Yes.
- He didn't visit you? Not once? - Let's forget about me.
- I think he wanted to see his baby. - Of course, he did.
- But he never showed up. - Why didn't he visit you?
- It's because of his work. - Right.
It's not like he works 24 hours a day.
Our children's school talent shows or graduation ceremonies...
He didn't attend any of them. It's true.
(Her husband has never attended his children's events.)
Your family didn't go on a nice trip in the past 17 years, right?
We went on a trip just twice.
- Only twice. - Where did you go?
It wasn't that he wanted to go on a trip.
He had no choice because his restaurant was being renovated.
- That's why he went on a trip. - That's why.
Whenever I ask him to go on a trip with us,
he and I seriously argue and end up discussing a divorce.
He asks his friends,
"Do I really have to go on a trip with my family in this situation?"
- Your husband does? - Yes.
He reluctantly agrees to go on vacation after a big fight.
Let's meet with her husband.
- How did he come on the show? - You should know...
- it was difficult to invite him. - Exactly.
Let's meet with her husband. Hello.
- Hello. - Hello.
(Who could be the husband who puts work before his family?)
- He's handsome. - Yes, he is.
Do you understand your wife's worry?
Why would she worry about me when I'm just working hard?
Yes. It's not like you waste your money on something else.
- Exactly. - Right.
However, why don't you take a day off from time to time?
Is there a special reason? You could relax and enjoy life.
I run a restaurant.
If my restaurant is closed when a customer comes,
it's inconsiderate of my customer.
No one would complain if you take a day off once in a while.
If I take a day off, who would pay me?
You should've been with your wife when she gave birth to your babies.
- You didn't even visit her later. - She's right.
- When she gave birth to our babies? - Yes.
The hospital was too far from our house.
- It was too far? - It was too far.
You didn't visit her because it was far and because of your restaurant?
Yes, I had to work at my restaurant.
How much longer are you planning to work without a break like this?
Until I turn 65.
May I ask your age?
- I'm 49 years old. - He's 49.
- He has more than 10 years left. - Do you think you can rest then?
It's hard to take a rest once working hard becomes a habit.
I know that, but resting won't pay me.
Even if that's true, the reason we work hard to make money is...
for the happiness of ourselves and our families, right?
It's so sad that you work all the time.
I don't feel sad about it.
"I don't feel sad about it."
(I'm frustrated!)
He's working hard for the happy future of the family.
Can't you understand him?
If that's the case, I would be happy too.
Working hard didn't make any difference because of our debt.
- Debt? - We have a lot of debt.
- Oh, no. - He tried different businesses.
- I can imagine that. - He had big ambitions.
A few of your businesses failed, right?
- He opened a franchise restaurant, - That's right.
and started a transportation business, but they all failed.
- A transportation business, - He looks like he did.
- That's why... - and a vending machine business.
- He's trying to redeem himself. - That's right.
- I understand him. - Summer is the off season.
So I hope we could take a break.
Our children didn't even write their diaries.
I asked them why they didn't,
and they said they had nothing to write about because we didn't...
go anywhere during the break.
How can I go out and have fun so often...
- while running a restaurant? - It's hard.
- It's hard. - There was a TV program...
- called "Where Are We Going, Dad?" - I hate TV shows like that.
- Pardon? - I hate TV shows like that.
(He really hates it.)
- He really hates it. - I hate TV programs...
where dads travel around with their children.
Their dad always goes to his restaurant.
- Why? - That's right.
You want to go on vacation with your daughters, right?
Who doesn't like having fun?
Exactly. He wishes to go.
It's the same for the self-employed.
- There's a lot to spend money on. - Raising them must cost a lot.
That's true.
Ji Yeon, would you like to say hi to their daughters?
- Say hi to Ji Yeon. - Hi, guys.
Good.
The eldest daughter, do you understand your mom's worry?
Yes, I do. When I was seven, I had to take a family photo...
for my winter break homework.
We took a photo together at the entrance of a ski resort,
and went back home without skiing.
- You just took a photo? - Yes.
You went all the way there to take a photo?
They needed a family photo.
- That's right. - It was her winter break.
(She didn't get a chance to have fun.)
How about the second daughter? Do you have any problems?
When my friend said that his dad took her on a date,
- I envied her. - Goodness.
However, my dad has never attended my school field days...
or school talent shows, and that disappointed me.
I'm going to graduate from elementary school.
I have a feeling that he won't attend my graduation ceremony.
(It's so sad to hear it.)
How do you feel now that you've heard that you let them down?
He cares more about his restaurant than his children.
- He doesn't care about them. - That's true.
- What do you mean? - I don't care about it.
You don't care about your daughters?
No. I don't care about her school events.
- Her graduation ceremony? - It's her life.
- It's her life? - I can't do everything she wants.
The elementary school graduation comes only once in a lifetime.
There's nothing special to do at a graduation ceremony.
All I do there is stand and wait.
- Standing there matters. - Your attendance means a lot.
- You take photos of your child too. - It's all about congratulating her.
Graduation ceremonies are held in the morning. It doesn't work for me.
Do you think all the other parents are free at that time?
You know that your dad is working hard though, right?
In fact, my mom works harder than my dad.
Your mom works harder?
My dad just does the preparation and comes home.
It's my mom who sells all of them.
Does your mom work there?
Yes, she does. My dad goes to the gym at 7pm.
- He comes back at 11pm. - At night?
Yes. He comes straight home,
- and goes to sleep. - He finishes working before 7pm.
- Yes. - Our menu is for dinner rush hours.
We have a lot of customers when I work at the restaurant.
They have the most customers when she works there.
The intensity of work is higher during my work time.
I close the restaurant at 2am, go home, and sleep.
- I make breakfast at 7:30am... - I see.
- for my husband and children. - You do house chores too.
I prepare dinner when my children come home.
You make dinner for the girls, and work at the restaurant?
She's the busiest person in the family.
- You don't have much time to sleep. - I sleep eight hours a day...
- two hours at a time. - You split up sleep time.
- That's more like a nap. - She can't get a good sleep.
Doesn't he help you with looking after the children?
No, he doesn't.
- How about house chores? - He never helps me with it.
- It seems he doesn't work so hard. - Exactly.
Your wife is working much harder than you.
What do you do after finishing work at 7pm?
- You work out for several hours... - I go to the gym.
- I work out. - Sorry?
- You work out? - Yes.
(You're living an enjoyable life.)
Do you work out every day?
- From Monday to Friday. - You work out every day.
I used to work at the restaurant with her until 10pm.
It was too hard for me to stand working all day long.
What about your wife? It's hard for her too.
- She needs to work out too. - She has back problems.
She went to the gym for three days and quit.
- You should take turns with her. - She even splits...
- her sleep time. - She doesn't have time to sleep.
- How can she work out? - Exactly.
(She has no time working at the restaurant and home!)
I heard that the second daughter...
works really hard too.
I work so hard that I could send my story to this show.
- She does a lot of works. - Tell us everything.
- That's how hard she works. - When I come home...
after my classes,
I work at the restaurant until the part-timer comes at 7pm.
- My gosh. - After showering,
I see a mountain of laundry because there are five of us.
My mom has knee problems too. It's hard for her to hang clothes.
- She's a good daughter. - So I help her with the laundry.
Because of her back problems,
Mom can't clean the floor. So I clean the floor,
and clean my dad's room because he likes it clean.
He doesn't do cleaning, right?
No, he doesn't.
- What grade are you in? - What grade are you in?
- I'm in 6th grade. - 6th grade.
You're like Cinderella.
My dad goes to all of the get-togethers.
- Get-togethers? What kind? - Yes.
I once went to a billiard hall with him.
It seemed like he cares more about his friends...
- than his family. - You must've felt that way.
She must've been very disappointed.
You play billiards and everything.
- He doesn't sound so busy. - He enjoys his life.
I play billiards with my friends after having dinner with them.
Your wife is working at the restaurant during that time.
You hang with your friends leaving all the work to your wife?
That's true.
(He admits it.)
What kind of get-together is it?
- The get-together? - Yes.
- There's a get-together of friends, - Okay.
- and my elementary school alumni, - Your elementary school alumni.
- What else? - and my friends from middle school.
- Your middle school friends? - Your high school friends too?
There's a get-together of my friends from high school.
- What about your college friends? - I hope you won't say that.
I didn't go to college. There's a get-together of my old colleagues.
- Your old colleagues. - And the transportation business.
I have a get-together of my friends from the transportation business.
How many times do you meet them in one month?
I meet them once or twice a month.
You should have a family meeting once a month.
A family meeting doesn't fit into my schedule.
- What? - It doesn't fit into his schedule.
Don't be ridiculous.
She is angry.
When is your udon restaurant the busiest?
It's the busiest from 9pm to 12am.
- That's when you go to the gym. - You don't stay at the restaurant.
That's when you go to the gym.
You know it's the busiest time.
(His eyes shift.)
- Wouldn't it be better... - When I am at the restaurant,
customers leave.
What kind of nonsense is that?
That's utter nonsense!
Don't be ridiculous.
If that's the case, you can help out at home.
- You can do household chores. - You can help out at home.
There is nothing to do at home. My children do all the chores.
- Why do you make them do it? - It's not their responsibility.
- They are students. - They are busy with schoolwork.
One of the daughters said...
her mom's knees are so bad...
that she can't even go down the slide.
What condition are you in?
I had a joint replacement surgery at the age of 40.
However, the surgery didn't go well.
I got 3 surgeries on one knee and 2 surgeries on the other.
When it was time to get surgeries,
my husband worked even though I needed his signature.
Other women in the hospital room asked me,
"Are you a widow? Why won't your husband come?"
They asked me that because he never visited.
What did the doctor say? What had happened to your knees?
I work at the restaurant, do household chores,
and take care of the children.
You worked too hard.
The doctor said that too much work damaged my knees.
However, my husband disagrees.
He says it's the lack of exercise.
- He says I lack muscles. - It must have made you sad.
It really did.
- He shouldn't have said anything. - Why didn't you go to the hospital?
Well, I... Later,
I dropped by a few times.
Why are you stuttering?
I didn't stutter.
Your husband enjoys his personal life...
through gatherings and such.
How do you relieve your stress?
I call my sister.
- Your elder sister. - Yes. I depend on her a lot.
Her sister is here with us.
Let's have a conversation with her.
- Hello. - Hello.
I am glad Sun Ae has a sister.
She must depend on you and complain to you a lot.
Yes, she calls me every time she feels down.
"All I ever do is work."
"What should I do? I think I married the wrong man."
Then I tell her to get a divorce.
It makes me upset.
(Her sister gives her strength.)
Has your brother-in-law made you upset personally...
in any way?
He has made me upset.
Perhaps he lived 10 more years thanks to my brother-in-law,
but my father passed away.
When that happened, he used work as an excuse...
and failed to stay at the funeral.
- He used work as an excuse. - He didn't show up?
(No way.)
He came for a short while.
He only came at night.
Since the son-in-law is one of the chief mourners,
the family was upset.
Sun Ae was particularly upset.
(Sun Ae must have been more upset than anyone.)
Didn't you think your behavior would upset your in-law?
Back then, I was in a vending machine rental service.
After I stocked up merchandise during the day,
I went to the funeral at night and stayed until late.
Then I slept and returned to work.
It was hard on me...
because I had to travel back and forth.
- Sir. - Yes?
You could have asked someone to take over for a few days.
There was no one to ask.
We know how vending machines work.
If there is nothing inside, people find another vending machine.
I didn't deal with vending machines that are outside.
I dealt with the ones that are inside factories.
If only a few items run out, people choose other items.
However, it's a problem if all items run out.
How did you feel?
He could have told people that a family member passed away.
Everyone would have understood.
It's upsetting.
He still wants me to treat his parents nicely.
I do like my mother-in-law.
Since my husband is always busy with work,
I take care of them. One time, my mother-in-law...
had to be hospitalized for a week due to shingles.
After I worked during the night,
I helped out at the restaurant during the day.
Then I made and delivered food to the hospital.
When I sat down and tried to have a conversation with her,
he called me and asked to come.
"Why?"
"I have to go exercise." That means it's 7pm.
- He still exercised. - That's right.
What is wrong with him?
After visiting the hospital,
I would rush to the restaurant to start working.
- He shouldn't have exercised. - I did that for a week.
- He didn't visit the hospital once. - Your mother was sick.
I think he showed up the day she left the hospital.
- The day she left the hospital. - He had to pay.
(He only showed up because he had to pay.)
I suggested that we go on a trip for my in-laws' 70th birthday.
He said I should go with the in-laws and children...
since he has to work.
We went on a trip for three days.
Think about it. What kind of a woman...
goes on a trip for three days...
- with her parents-in-law... - You went with your parents-in-law.
- and children by herself? - Seriously.
How frustrating.
We can't call it a trip.
It's more like a penance.
(Her husband should have gone with her.)
Why didn't you visit your mother at the hospital?
I couldn't fit it into my schedule...
because I had to work during the day.
You always find time to work out.
You don't have time for anything else.
She told me not to come.
You should have done the right thing and made time to visit.
I hope it never happens,
but you might become hospitalized in the future.
Let's say your wife and children fail to visit...
because they can't fit it into their schedule.
How would you feel?
That would be a problem.
(That would be a problem.)
He is extremely selfish.
(What is he saying?)
You think you are doing well with your life.
- You think so since you work hard. - I want to ask you...
the purpose...
behind making money.
It's to help my family live well.
That's the purpose, right? You want your family to be happy.
Do they seem happy right now?
In my opinion,
we are pretty happy.
- My wife and children are happy. - Listen,
- your wife is struggling. - I know that.
I can't do anything about it yet.
Hard work is ruining her knees.
Your children want to go to places with you.
You don't know when that happiness will come.
It will come soon.
You said it will be way until you reach the age of 65.
I will work until that age.
- This year or the next, - Wait a minute.
the good days will come.
(It's an empty promise.)
You are not a bad man.
- We are not saying you are bad. - We are not saying that.
We are frustrated because you don't get it.
Your wife doesn't want big things in life.
She wants small happiness. She wants your love for the family.
I think it's the love you lack, not time.
That's right.
That's what I think. Gosh, this is upsetting.
- I know. - My goodness.
- That's right. - My goodness.
If Sun Ae were my sister, I would have ended you.
I am so upset.
How can you say those things when her health is ruined?
That's how I lived, too.
Why won't he understand?
Let's cool down in water.
(I am so frustrated.)
Gosh, I am so frustrated.
(She claps like a seal.)
- Gosh, it's hot. - I am sorry.
I am sorry.
(Struggling)
Please pull her up.
In 1, 2, 3.
(Two men pull her up.)
Men help women.
You have held everything in for so long.
Is there a reason why you sent a worry to Hello?
I went to the hospital because my back hurts.
They suggested that I take the MRI scan.
When I did that,
they said that my disc had ruptured.
My goodness.
They said I must have an emergency surgery.
It was my 10th surgery.
It made me scared because I am no longer young.
I have diabetes, too.
"Maybe I won't wake up after this surgery."
The thought made me angry. I got mad at my husband.
After the surgery,
my husband was present.
- Thank goodness. - He took me to the hospital room.
Then he said, "I will be off then."
He left with those words.
- He left after seeing your face. - That's right.
He thinks he made a big sacrifice by staying until I came out.
Didn't he ask if you are in pain?
- No. - He didn't say anything.
"I will be off then."
The thing is,
he did another thing that made me upset.
He called me to come to the restaurant.
He called the day you left the hospital.
After the surgery, I had to stand or lie down.
I wasn't allowed to sit down.
- That's right. - That's why he told me...
to come to the restaurant and remain standing.
He said I should stand behind the cash register.
Why did you ask her to work the day she left the hospital?
The customers asked me...
if the owner has changed.
- That's why I asked her. - You were worried.
- The customers must like your wife. - Yes, they do.
There are many customers who come to say hello to her.
You were thinking about the customers, not your wife.
- He thought about the customers. - You can be honest.
I guess you are right.
You put the customers and the restaurant before her.
I am sorry.
It's the first apology we have heard.
(Her husband apologizes for the first time.)
Please make demands to your husband.
Here is what I think.
I am not saying that we should all go on a trip.
I just wish you would play with the children.
- You can play badminton with them. - Right.
Those are the small and ordinary things...
I want in life.
I want you to do your job as a dad.
You say that you make money for us,
but what have you really done for the family?
I want to ask you that.
If anyone were to ask me what my wish is...
What is your wish?
I want to sleep at night.
- How many hours do you need? - "I want to sleep at night."
Other people sleep at night and wake up in the morning.
I haven't done that once.
I want to go to bed around 9pm or 10pm...
and open my eyes in the morning.
- That means... - That's my wish.
I want to sleep at night.
(What is going through his head right now?)
- You should take a few days off. - Here is what I think about Sun Ae.
If you play well with your children,
she will work until her body falls to pieces.
- Right? - Yes.
I can tell that she is optimistic. You don't cry much, do you?
It's not that she lacks tears.
She endures everything.
If she collapses, everything else will collapse, too.
- That's why she endures. - I learned something today.
If someone asks if I like to travel, I will say that I do.
- Seriously. - Everyone, make sure you do that.
Seriously.
I would rather not have a husband like him.
- Having a husband is better. - You are right.
Sun Ae expressed her wishes.
Do you agree to follow them?
Yes, I do.
We can take a break once or twice a week.
I will make sure she can take a rest.
Do you think it's a worry?
- It's a worry. - Please press the button.
- Please press the button. - You think it's a worry.
You said that you want to work until the age of 65.
My grandma did that.
- She only worked until then. - That's right.
When she stopped working,
- she became depressed. - Of course.
One day, you will lose a big part of your life that is work.
Then you will become depressed right away.
- That's why I think it's a worry. - You think it's a worry.
It's a worry.
All right.
It's not a 20-dollar steak that makes you happy.
Even if you eat one-dollar noodles,
talking and laughing with the family will make you happy.
- Ji Yeon. - There is no need for words.
Listening to the worry...
- made my anger surge. - She continued to sigh.
I related to the worry a lot.
- I am addicted to work. - That's right.
I feel like I will become unhappier if I don't work.
When my family goes on a trip,
I don't go because I have to work.
Listening to him made me wonder if my reasoning is strange.
I hope you wouldn't misunderstand.
The husband's problem has nothing to do with work addiction.
He uses work as an excuse when Sun Ae does more work.
- That's right. - Work has ruined her body.
Work isn't his goal, but an excuse.
Jong Min, think.
I do think.
What have you been listening to?
Your words don't fit the worry.
- Seriously. - You need to listen to the others.
You won't listen to your wife when you get married, right?
I think it's a big worry.
My goodness.
- All right. - You think it's a worry.
If you think it's a worry, please press the button.
(What does the audience think?)
- In 5, 4, 3, 2, 1. - In 5, 4, 3, 2, 1.
- Time's up. - Time's up.
Stop.
It sounded like a rain shower.
- So many people pressed the button. - Many people sighed...
throughout the worry.
I heard sighs from all sides.
Anyway, I am sorry that I cried.
It weighs on her mind.
I feel bad.
- It will air anyway. - What?
- It will air anyway. - My goodness.
He timidly got back at her.
- I am sorry. - Don't worry about it.
Please say a few words to your wife.
What do you call her?
- I call her "Honey". - "Honey".
Honey, I loved you when I first met you.
My feelings have never changed.
I love you.
I love you, Honey.
We visited the show because of a worry.
Let's discuss the matters at home and improve our situation.
I am beginning to rethink my beliefs.
I think visiting the show helped.
Please say a few words to your children.
Please say that you will be a good dad.
I will begin...
- to play with you. - Excuse me.
Make sure you go to their graduations.
- I will do that. - Thank you.
They are excited.
- They are excited. - He will go to your graduation.
He will be there.
He will go to your graduation.
(Clapping)
(Sure)
She is like, "Sure. Thanks a bunch."
Please take good care of your body.
Let's see how many votes the worry got. Show us the result.
What's the perfect score?
- 200 votes. - "The perfect score"?
- The perfect score is 200 votes. - There is no perfect score.
It's a big deal to have more than 100 votes.
That means more than half have voted.
Will it be 165? 175? 165? 175?
165.
- That's a lot of votes. - I know.
(It was a worry.)
We now have a dad who obsesses over his daughters.
- That's the story. - He loves his daughters.
Hello.
(He is the master of voices.)
I am a 15-year-old girl who lives in Gyeongju.
I am the youngest one among the three daughters.
I am sending the story as a representative.
(Ringing)
"My daughter, where are you? When are you coming home?"
(Ringing)
"My daughter, you are done playing with your friends, right?"
"I am in front of the cafe. Come on out."
My goodness.
My dad always checks where we are...
over and over again.
It was like a line from the lyrics of a song.
"Where are you?"
"I am outside."
- "Your skirt is too short." - Gosh.
"What? I am not wearing a skirt."
"Look behind you."
Seeing my dad sent chills down my spine.
I feel like I am under surveillance 24 hours a day.
"I do what I do because I love you very much."
If that's love, I don't want it.
Please stop my dad and his ridiculousness.
(Please stop my dad.)
What is Bong Won like?
You have a daughter.
He is terrible at expressing his feelings.
- Thus, - He is very shy.
when he drinks a lot,
he wakes up our daughter and goes, "Yu Ri,"
- "do you want an allowance?" - That's it?
He gives her money. Then he wants to say more.
(Swallowing)
"Good night." Then he leaves.
(He only gives her an allowance.)
- That's right. - He can't say...
- what's on his mind. - That's right.
He takes good care of his junior actors.
When I was in a drama with him,
- he took such a good care of me. - Wait a minute.
Why didn't you invite my husband, Lee Bong Won?
All right. The youngest daughter will represent her sisters.
Please come on out.
(Who is struggling due to her dad's excessive love?)
(Kwon Yoo Min)
How much does your dad love you?
How can it be a worry?
I am sure everyone in Gyeongju knows about it.
- It's well-known in Gyeongju. - Yes.
- Gyeongju is big. - We are not allowed to wear skirts.
- He doesn't allow it. - No.
Our shorts need to come down to here.
He throws away our deep-neck tops.
- He throws them away. - Yes.
He must like an outfit like this one. Right?
This is it, right?
I can pull my shorts down even further.
Is your dad behind you often?
Yes, he is.
He calls his friends in Gyeongju.
Do they give him information?
Yes. He says we are in the palm of his hand.
One time, I secretly wore a skirt.
You secretly wore it.
- I bet you wanted to wear it. - My dad called me.
He asked me, "Why did you wear a skirt?"
- I answered, - You must have been surprised.
"Dad, I am not wearing a skirt."
He said, "Look behind you."
When I did, I found him standing behind me. subtitles ripped and synced by riri13
I got goosebumps.
He must have friends all over Gyeongju.
What is he, a police officer?
Let's talk to the dad who is famous in Gyeongju.
Hello.
- Hello. - Hello.
Don't you think you are interfering too much?
I love them too much. They are underage.
You say that you do what you do because they are underage.
Will you let them be free when they become adults?
That's what I think now.
I won't know until then.
He won't know until then.
It will be scary if I date a girl with a dad like him.
Are you worried that something will happen to them?
Yes, I am very worried.
When they go somewhere, they must call me upon departure...
and arrival.
They must call me before they go to bed.
When they wake up,
they must call and say, "Dad, I am up."
They need to tell you that they woke up.
Did something happen before?
I am wondering the same thing.
Nothing happened.
My twin daughters were born at the weight of 1.5kg.
They were weak as babies.
The doctors at the hospital said they probably won't survive.
They got sick very often as they grew up.
They had poor health.
Here is what I am curious about.
You always know where your daughters are.
Yoo Min said that you receive tips.
How do you know where they are?
Did you download a tracking app on their cell phones?
Look if you have a chip under your skin.
When they walk around the city,
people give me a call.
"The twins are at such and such location."
When I have free time, I drive around downtown.
Do you look for them?
I know where they usually go.
They always hang out at similar places.
- Right. - Did you ask your acquaintances...
to call you when they see your daughters?
Because they know how much I cherish them,
- they volunteer to call me. - "I saw your precious daughter."
- Like that? - I sometimes get those calls too.
"Hey, your husband is drinking here."
Even if I don't ask, my friends call and tell me.
- Right. - Yes.
They tell me where the girls are.
Why do you go to them though?
- Right. You stay behind them. - They could answer your phone.
I'm really playful.
- So I like going to them and... - You want to surprise them.
- You like to surprise them. - Yes. That's why I stay behind.
You should just surprise them and leave. Why take them home?
She needs to come home if she meets her dad.
(Goodness)
You went there to pick her up.
I am curious. In Austria...
How is it?
Do moms and dads...
worry about their young children a lot?
- It's very different. - Is it very different?
First of all, when you hit 18,
most people leave home.
- You live alone. - You move out.
They become independent at a young age.
If you are above 16,
you are legally permitted to stay outside 24 hours.
- Legally permitted? - Is that right?
16 and onwards. You can drink beer too.
- Really? - You become an adult.
- It's very different. - That's why...
I thought about moving to Austria when I was in middle school.
(He thought about freeing himself in Austria.)
How is your mom? Is she more relaxed?
Mom is not interested in us.
She talks to her dolls.
To her dolls?
That's another worry.
- Her mom talks to her dolls. - That's a worry.
She's unusual.
I think she was very shocked by her husband.
Let's meet her mom who talks to her dolls.
Hello.
- Hello. - Hello.
Did you win the dolls from a claw machine?
My husband did.
Did he give them to you to talk to?
Yes. My husband won a lot of dolls and gave them to me.
When I wake up in the morning, I ask them if they slept well.
I talk to them as if they have soul.
- She's innocent. - I am sorry,
but show us how you talk to them. Think of me as the bunny doll.
Yes.
Think of me as the bunny doll.
(How would she talk to the doll?)
Hello, Bunny. Did you sleep well?
How was today? I felt good today.
How did you feel today, Bunny?
It must be tough.
- It must be really tough for you. - Goodness.
- It must be tough for the dolls. - Isn't she cute?
Is this why you go after your girls?
In my opinion...
Did you know your daughters were worried about this?
- About their dad? - Yes, I knew.
But...
actually, it's not that bad.
He was worse to me.
- What? - In the past? When you were dating?
Yes. Before and after we got married.
He used to be really obsessed with me.
What did he do?
He's working right now.
On the way home, he would call me.
- Would he say he's behind you? - Yes, he would be behind me.
(He called her and told her that he's right behind her.)
- That's crazy. - It's true.
Isn't it an event?
He loves following from behind.
Is his favorite song JYP's "Behind You"?
(Is "Behind You" his favorite song?)
You go out and...
have drinks with your friends, don't you?
He should, but he doesn't.
He comes home right after work.
- He never leaves home... - That's really tough.
- He's the toughest one to handle. - once he comes home from work.
You should at least go to a gym.
You should.
Even if he doesn't have time, he goes to the gym at 7pm.
Do you always eat dinner at home?
Yes.
Oh, my gosh.
(Oh, my gosh.)
- This is... - Then...
does your wife cook for you? Or do you cook for yourself?
My wife cooks breakfast. I cook dinner.
- That's okay then. - That's good.
You cook dinner.
Yes. I cook for myself and the girls.
- He's great. - She just told me.
He cooks for the girls too.
- He's great. - He's great.
You are great.
(They respect him.)
(This is not it.)
- He's so nice. - Not many dads cook.
You are lucky to have him.
(He's a great dad.)
- What will you do now? - Since you are already here...
I think we don't need to talk more about her dad.
Let's talk about her mom.
Let's talk about her.
Let's change the title and say the dolls are tormenting you.
- There's no man like him. - I am curious.
- Is his food good? - Does he cook well?
He cooks well. Really well.
He cooks well, but...
- Are you here to brag about him? - No.
(My daughter is lovely.)
Wait.
Let's talk to the udon place owner.
(We can't stop thinking about one person.)
Sir. You are the only male in the family.
Right. He's got three daughters too.
- Have you cooked for your girls? - He's so different.
- Have you cooked udon for them? - He's got no time for that.
- Right. - He has to exercise.
- He's got no time. - I am sorry.
Let's meet the other daughters.
Hello.
- You are the eldest. - I am the eldest, Kwon Yoo Jin.
Can you relate to your little sister?
- Yes. I can relate to her. - Right now...
When I was in middle school, it was much worse.
He would've been more obsessed because you're the first daughter.
In middle school, my curfew was 6pm.
When I was running late,
- he called me every 10 minutes. - Every 10 minutes.
Weren't there surveillance cameras?
We had them until last year.
- They do that. - You had them at home?
- Yes. - At home?
These days, you can watch using your phone.
- Tell us about it. - How can he do that?
There was one in the living room and one at the entrance.
Even when he was outside, he watched the house.
He watched us. The camera at the entrance...
can at least secure the house.
But the one in the living room made me feel like I was being watched.
And it felt scary.
He put the cameras for their safety,
but in fact, the cameras were there to watch them.
Are they gone now?
- Yes, they broke. - They broke.
They are still there, but they are broken.
You didn't break them on purpose, did you?
Let's meet the person who enabled him to stand behind...
the girls by reporting their location.
- It's him. - It's him.
- Hello. - Hello.
(Who is this reporter?)
What have you been reporting to him?
He hates his girls...
wearing short clothes.
So whenever the girls wear short clothes, I call him.
Because they are twins, they are always together.
- But sometimes, - She's alone.
- she's alone. - Right.
When I see that, I get worried and call him to let him know...
- that she's alone. - Do you get paid for each report?
- That's possible. - Right.
How many people like you are there in Gyeongju?
- About 10 people. - That's terrible.
Look at the twins.
- There are 10 people. - That's too much.
There are 10 spies.
Gyeongju is a small town.
So we know each other well.
Also, he's a social person.
- Knowing 10 people in small town... - Sir.
You don't have to tell him everything though,
even if he's curious about what his girls are up to.
He often tells me...
about the location tracking app on his phone.
"Look, my daughters are here."
He shows me the surveillance camera footages...
and tells me what the girls are doing.
He often tells me that.
- Goodness. - He showed the footage.
That's why I call him.
What do you do?
I work for a local newspaper.
- Are you a journalist? - Are you a journalist?
He's perfect for the job.
- He's a professional. - Too bad for you.
- There is no escape. - He's a journalist.
Did you know that he was the reporter?
I knew. Dad said I was in the palm of his hand.
He told me about each of the people...
who report to him about us.
He told you about the reporters.
Let's talk to her twin.
- Hello. - Hello.
You must be worried about this too.
Yoo Min likes staying at home.
But I like playing outside.
You like different things.
When I want to go outside,
Dad tells me that I have to either go with my sister...
- or stay home. - Or you shouldn't go outside.
What is this about?
So if one of you doesn't want to go outside, you can't go outside.
Yes. Because we are twins,
Dad says we have to stick together all the time.
- So... - What is that?
- What is this law? - Goodness.
Twins have to stay together all the time.
My twin sister had friends.
But I didn't know them.
So I didn't want to join her.
But Dad told me I had to go too if she was going.
So my sister ended up not going.
Can't you just go?
I tried sneaking out, but Dad caught me.
He went sulky, so I just didn't go.
- He gets sulky. - Yes.
- Why should they stick together? - Yes. Why should they?
They are twins.
- What about being twins? - Is there such a law?
Would triplets have to always go everywhere together?
What about quadruplets?
When I saw other twins,
their parents treated them as separate people.
That made the twins like different things and play differently.
What's wrong with that?
- They are different people. - They have to be different.
- Of course. - In my opinion,
they get along well.
But instead of making their bond stronger, it's creating conflicts.
Let's ask her twin sister.
What was tough about always being with your sister?
Yoo Min wanted to learn taekwondo.
I wanted to learn judo or kendo.
- You liked different sports. - But because we are twins,
he insisted that we attend a same class.
So I gave in and learned taekwondo.
I think this is more serious than your dad appearing from behind.
- Right. - Right.
She can do what she wants, and she can quit if she doesn't like it.
(Why do they have to do everything together?)
I've never considered the two girls as different people.
- That's really wrong. - That's wrong.
- This is more worrying. - Yes.
- Is there any other problem? - Has there been any problem?
When we entered 8th grade, we got assigned...
- to different homerooms. - That's possible.
- That's possible. - We were in different homerooms.
But Dad said we can't be in different homerooms,
and he called the principal.
And we ended up being in the same homeroom.
Because our last name is Kwon,
the kids with last names that start with K got pushed back.
Their numbers were assigned, but they got pushed back.
So we got embarrassed.
That's bad.
I am curious. Do you like being together?
Do you like being in the same homeroom? Or is it uncomfortable?
Tell us honestly.
The bigger we get, the more uncomfortable it gets.
Right. You liked being together when you were younger.
- Yes. - You share some friends.
- Yes. - Let's hear from their mother.
Do you think twins have to always stay together?
I think they don't have to stick together.
Why didn't you say that to your husband?
- I know. - I tried telling him.
When I say a few things,
he gets sulky right away.
- Does he get sulky? - Yes.
He gets sulky easily.
What would you do if they start dating?
Does the other twin have to join the date?
- No. That can't happen. - Yes.
- What? - Yes.
- Yes? - No way.
Since they are still young, and they don't date seriously,
they can just hang out together.
You don't know anything, do you?
This is ridiculous.
Have they never had boyfriends?
- No way. - From my understanding.
Let's reveal the truth now.
(It's time to be honest.)
- Tell us honestly. - Tell us honestly.
I broke up with my boyfriend recently.
- You recently broke up. - He's shocked.
- Was he your first boyfriend? - No.
(He wasn't her first boyfriend.)
- He wasn't the first. - How many did you have?
- He wasn't her first boyfriend. - Wait.
He wasn't her first boyfriend.
- How many boyfriends have you had? - Six.
She dated six boys.
(Goodness.)
- Goodness. - This is what happens.
- This is what happens. - He was the sixth boyfriend.
- Look at him. - Sir.
- She had six boyfriends. - Sir.
- Is it a co-ed school? - How do you feel?
Are you shocked?
I'm sure the relationships weren't serious.
I'm sure they dated only for a while.
Did you date only for a while? Or did you date for a long time?
- I met him through social media. - You met him through social media.
Yes. We can't meet because we live far away.
- We live in different areas. - You've never met him.
Did you just date online?
- They dated online. - Have you met him?
- No. - They never went on a date.
That's not considered dating.
- How about the other one? - How about you?
I broke up with my boyfriend last year.
You broke up last year. How long did you date?
(Did you have a boyfriend too?)
- Goodness. - A year.
Who was he watching?
How many people have you dated?
I dated about two people.
You seem to be in shock. Your face turned dark.
How do you feel now?
I think I've gone a little sulky.
Go a little sulky. Don't get too sulky.
If you were to choose one of the men here...
to date your girl, who would you choose?
I want someone good-hearted.
As long as he's good...
- to my daughter, I'm okay with him. - He has to be devoted.
I like Jong Min's first impression.
He's good-hearted.
(Me?)
(I'll just date him online.)
Who do you not want to date your daughters?
You want them to avoid this person. This kind of person.
Is it Tae Joon?
(He's the handsome one.)
I think it's me.
- Is it him? - Just try it for fun.
He's Peter. He's Tae Joon.
(It's time to choose.)
- Who? - Dong Yeob?
- Him? - No, him.
(He chose Peter.)
- Why? - Why did you choose him?
- Is he too handsome? - Is he too handsome?
Handsome people always have problems.
- It's true. - Is that it?
Is it because he's too handsome?
His smile looks deceiving.
- His smile looks deceiving. - Smile.
- Who would you want to date? - Yes.
I doubt she'd choose Jong Min.
- Right. - You're right.
- I don't think she would. - We never know.
- I'd choose him. - Me?
Yes.
(That made me feel good.)
- Who else? - And the handsome one.
- "Him and the handsome one." - Hey...
- "Him and the handsome one." - She chose me...
- because I read the stories. - You know who he is, right?
He's like a stepping stone.
Yes.
This is so funny.
Who would you choose?
I would choose Tae Joon too.
Tae Joon.
- You like the same person. - Look.
One of them is dating Tae Joon.
- And they go on a date. - They go on a date together.
- They both like him. - And the other one might get...
jealous that she can't date him. That's a problem.
One of them would yield.
- What? - What?
Who would do that?
There's no yielding in love.
Does that make sense?
(He's sad.)
The problem will...
start arising now. They're eighth graders now.
- They are in eighth grade. - They will arrive at puberty soon.
Girls, how do you want your dad to change?
Do you have any request?
All the doors in our house are open.
Do you have to leave all the doors open?
The electric wire is stuck on the door.
- You can't lock the door. - I can't lock the door.
- Did he put it there intentionally? - Yes.
Was it to stop you from locking the door?
- But now? - We're sensitive now,
- so I hope he will let us close... - So you can close the door.
the door.
Why do you stop them from closing the door?
Ever since they were little, I stopped them from it.
Whenever something happens, people lock themselves.
Then you can't talk...
because of the physical barrier.
I made them leave their doors open so that we have no secrets.
You say that, but it turns out they have a lot of secrets.
(There shouldn't be any more.)
It's understandable that you made them leave the doors open.
Why is there no door for the master bedroom?
I knew he'd worry about that.
- Please give him an answer. - Let's ask the mom.
- You know the answer. - How can there be no door?
Our doors are always open. Even the master bedroom.
- How can you have three babies? - Isn't it tough?
It's tough.
We can't do anything romantic.
Everything is open.
You can't even have a secret conversation.
Yes. So we can't be romantic inside.
We take it outside.
What are you talking about?
That was so random.
That was too much.
Goodness.
We weren't ready for it.
Mr. Kwon's face turned even darker this time.
(He can't hide his emotions.)
- It's... - It's funny.
Have you ever been embarrassed because you can't close your door?
It's embarrassing to say. My menstruation started.
Right. Your menstruation began.
He came in when I was changing my pad.
- What? - Goodness.
When he came in, we both got shocked.
Dad quietly closed the door, and I did the same.
It was accidental.
Weren't you embarrassed when this happened?
She's my daughter. And I'm her dad.
You need to give her privacy.
Right. But I can't let her close the door.
Why do you insist on that?
It takes 5 to 10 minutes to get changed.
I can leave her alone while she gets dressed.
But I can't let her close the door completely.
Haven't you thought about this?
Communication is important.
But you need time to think alone.
(He doesn't seem to agree.)
What does the eldest daughter think?
I am turning 20 soon. So I am an adult now.
- Will you escape it? - Will you be free?
What if he acts the same when you turn 20?
I should move out.
She's thinking about moving out.
She wants to move out quickly.
You restrict them because you love them.
But it makes the girls want to grow up fast.
- They can't wait to get away. - Tae Joon, you went over the line.
Do you think you are the son-in-law because the girls chose you?
- It's frustrating. - You look like you represent them.
You can't do this, Father.
The doors are the problem in this family.
- You look harmonious. - He's afraid that once the doors...
are closed, the family will be shut off from each other.
- Right. - But it's already happening.
- Right. - The girls are growing apart.
(Fix it before it's too late.)
How will you treat your daughter as an adult?
I'll let her behave like an adult.
What times will be her curfew?
- Nine. - What?
- Nine. - That's not being free.
- Right. - You raised them.
- But you've locked them inside. - It's like this.
You gave birth to them,
- but you don't own them. - Right.
The moment they were born, they detached from you.
They need to get ready to be independent.
Is there anything you want to tell him before we end?
Dad,
I know you love us.
Tell him everything.
- Come on. - She can't say it.
- She feels sorry. - She's sorry.
- Your daughters are so good. - Did...
Sir. You shouldn't...
get sulky because of what she said. Okay? Promise me.
- He's going to get sulky. - Promise me.
You've already gone sulky, haven't you?
- He's already gone sulky. - It's already too late.
He's already gone sulky.
If he's going to get sulky anyway, it's better to say it.
Just say it.
We are now at the awkward age. When you show up from behind...
when we hang out with friends, we get scared.
We love that you love us so much.
But please do it moderately. You know I love you, right?
She's cute.
Goodness.
It's a problem to love someone too much.
- It's lovely. - She didn't want him to get sulky,
- so she acted all lovely. - She's considerate.
"You know, right?"
- It was a little strange. - "You know I love you, right?"
All right. Let's start with Ji Yeon.
When I first heard about this story, I thought it wasn't a big deal.
But the more I heard,
the more serious it got. I think it's a worry.
It's a worry.
- Jong Min. - When I have a daughter,
- I'd do the same. - He will be obsessed.
I'd do the same, but I think it's a worry.
In what ways?
Wait.
"I'd be like him if I had a daughter."
"But I think it's a worry."
- What would be the reason? - In what ways is it a worry?
After all, who is it for?
If something happens, he feels really bad.
(It's way too long, so it's fast-forwarded.)
It's for his own happiness.
- That's what I think. - Is it for his own happiness?
- Or is it for his daughter's? - He thinks...
- Jong Min, do you think... - It's just an excuse.
he does that for his own good?
That's not exactly what I meant.
What did you mean then?
I think it's a worry.
- What about you, Peter? - I think it's a worry.
I think he'll feel so lonely when his daughters get married.
- He'll be even lonelier. - Right.
I'm sorry, but may I ask your age?
- I'm 46 years old. - You're the same age as me.
- He can be your friend. - Hi, my friend.
Say hi to him.
Your daughter picked me.
Stop it. That's weird.
- He's not laughing. - He can't laugh at that joke.
Please press the button if you think it's a worry.
(What does the audience think?)
- 5, 4, 3, - 5, 4, 3,
- 2, 1. Time's up. - He might sulk.
Please say something to your daughters.
Yoo Min, Yoo Hyun, and Yoo Jin,
I wouldn't mind if you get good grades or anything else.
I only wish for your health.
I love you all.
Please show us the result.
(The result)
The last digit is five.
- Is it a tie? - It's over 100 votes.
- I knew it. - Is it over 100?
They need to get 175 votes to win. They got 155 votes.
That's a lot.
That means it's a serious problem.
I wonder how she lived with him for over 10 years.
- She must be very frustrated. - Yes.
Hello. I'm a housewife in my 30s who's been married for 12 years.
I decided to marry my husband because I fell for...
his quiet personality.
He's so quiet that whenever I see his lips,
I feel the urge to punch him.
"Honey, how was work today?"
"Honey, how is the food? Do you like it?"
(Every time she asks a question,)
(he responds with silence.)
It might sound like a lie, but for the past 12 years,
my husband has never called my name.
He's never called me honey or darling like everyone does.
- My gosh. - He's never called her by her name?
- What does he call her then? - There was no toilet paper,
so I thought he'd talk to me first. I waited for that moment.
10 minutes passed, and he said...
"Ex... Ex..."
"What did you say?"
"Excuse me!"
(Are we strangers?)
- That's what he said to me. - To his own wife?
- "Excuse me." - "Excuse me."
- What should I do about him? - Why would he say that?
Please help me make my husband talk more to me.
What could be his problem?
- Shall we meet our guest? - Yes. Please come out!
(Who could be the wife of a quiet husband?)
(Jung Hyun Sun)
(Welcome)
How quiet is your husband?
Sometimes, he looks like he doesn't know how to speak.
It's as if he just started to learn how to speak.
That's how quiet he is.
- We've been married for 12 years. - Yes.
He's never called me 1st in the past 12 years.
He's never talked to me first either.
- Gosh. - We've been married for 12 years,
but we still feel awkward around each other when we're alone.
- Even after 12 years of marriage? - Yes.
Didn't he even compliment you during your honeymoon phase?
- "I love you." - "It's delicious."
Has he not told you that he loves you?
I've never heard that before.
- He didn't say that either? - Even when you were dating him?
- Even when you were dating him? - Yes.
- But you married him? - Yes, I did.
Did he ask you to marry him?
- Did he just give you a ring? - We had our son.
(Everyone understands.)
- Before getting married, - He made a baby...
- without saying a word? - they had a child.
- Words are not necessary. - That's right.
Still, there are times when he has to answer questions.
He answers with his facial expressions.
He makes this frowning face.
- "Okay." Like this. - He answers reluctantly.
That's right.
You need to have conversations to continue your marriage.
- You've been married 12 years. - Exactly.
My husband works 4 days, and takes 4 days off.
If I don't check his schedule in advance,
I can only know that he's working if he's not home.
If he's at home, he's not working that day.
What's his position at work?
I don't even know that.
- Do you still not know that? - She doesn't even know that.
- Do you still not know that? - I think this is a good chance...
for me to hear his explanation.
- He's never told me about it. - He might've been transferred.
- Don't you know what he does? - Gosh.
I once asked him about his job.
- He said, "I fix things." - He fixes things?
- He answers your questions, but... - "What do you fix?"
He said he fixes things like a boiler.
"Is your job fixing boilers?"
- It's like playing 20 questions. - He doesn't explain details.
He doesn't speak clearly.
- It sounds like 20 questions. - It feels like playing that game.
It's like that whenever I ask him a question.
What does your husband like?
I still don't know what he likes.
Getting to know each other is the fun of honeymoon phase.
When you dine out, you need to decide the menu.
Does he point the menu without saying anything?
- He says the menu only. - Only the menu?
- "Pork back bone stew." - That's right.
- "Jjajangmyeon." - Exactly.
- That's weird. - "Ox bone soup."
- Doesn't he order for more food? - I do that.
- Even if he wants more food... - I guess he puts the empty plate...
- in front of her. - he doesn't say that.
When I think he wants some more,
I order it.
(He's quiet wherever he goes.)
Does he not talk to...
your son either?
Or is he chatty when he's with your son?
No. Our son wishes for the same thing.
He wishes to talk to him.
He wants to talk to his dad.
Is your son quiet too?
No, he's good with words.
"He's good with words."
- It'll be tough. - He's very quiet.
What if he doesn't talk to us?
Hello.
(Who is her excessively quiet husband?)
- Please speak into the microphone. - Your microphone.
- Hello. - Welcome.
He spoke out.
Please introduce yourself.
(He's shy and awkward.)
(His hand is shaking.)
I'm from Cheonan.
I'm Han Jin Seob. I'm 43 years old.
- What did he say? - What was your name again?
I'm Han Jin Seob.
Your ear must've itched a lot.
- He's Han Jin Seob, and he's 43. - Han Jin Seob.
Do you understand your wife's worry?
Yes, I do.
He understands her.
Could you speak longer please?
Why do you think it's a worry?
(What does he think is the reason?)
- Because it's frustrating. - Is it frustrating for you?
- No, for her. - So, you admit...
that you're quiet, right?
Yes.
Is it that you don't speak to your wife so much?
Or do you not speak much to other people?
(Scratching)
It's the same when I'm outside.
Does it frustrate you too? Is it hard for you to speak out?
It's normal for me now.
Can you please speak faster?
(Gosh!)
It takes him some time to answer questions.
What's the longest time...
did you see him speak?
Two things are most memorable.
- Is it even memorable? - Did he speak that long?
- She says it's memorable. - It must be frustrating.
My husband and I were alone in the car.
We're with our child in the car mostly.
I told him about a mean customer I met that day.
I said I was stressed out.
I thought he wouldn't say anything, so I went on.
- However, he cut me off. - He cut you off?
- Did he really do that? - Yes, he did.
- It's hard to believe. - He cut you off.
He said, "What's wrong with that person?"
(What's wrong with that person?)
(It's amazing.)
- That's memorable. - I couldn't forget that he said it.
- You must've been surprised. - Yes, I was.
- Is it a long answer for him? - I think so.
- I was touched. - She was touched.
- What's the other thing? - It must've been touching.
- Right. - What's the other one?
The other thing he said... I read a book.
It said that husbands with problems with gambling, women,
- and alcohol... - Alcohol.
- are easier than a quiet husband. - A quiet husband is more difficult?
- Yes. - Is there a book like that?
The book said many things like that.
So I told my husband about it.
Then, he said,
"I could go for a week without speaking if no one talks to me."
- That's a long sentence. - Right.
- It's quite long. - I think he could do that too.
He expressed his thought very clearly.
I wished I could...
- You wanted to pinch his lips. - That's right.
There are fun things we enjoy in life.
I guess you don't have a chance to enjoy it.
I always say...
that my marriage feels like I keep riding a merry-go-round...
without riding a roller coaster in an amusement park.
- That's a good comparison. - She's bored.
- It's safe, but not thrilling. - That's right.
There's no fluctuation.
However, those who have ups and downs in life...
wishes for the merry-go-round life.
I understand.
- We all desire what we don't have. - What has your life been like?
My whole life has been like a roller coaster.
It wasn't boring, but...
You said the book you read said a quiet husband is more difficult...
than a man with problems with alcohol, women, and gambling.
If you live with a man with those problems,
- That's right. - you would suffer too.
- It's hard. You should be grateful. - You could lose your house.
You could leave a man like that.
- You could leave a man like that? - I can't leave him.
- It's hard to leave them too. - It's hard.
- That kind of men are... - "I have a great idea."
(You can't find the right timing to leave him.)
- Haven't you see the men on Hello? - They're not easy to leave.
Exactly.
Your wife seems frustrated. Why don't you try to speak more often?
I wish I could,
but it's hard for me to take action.
- Is it hard? - It's hard.
Was there a special reason...
of becoming quiet?
I've been quiet since I was little.
- You've always been quiet. - I see.
- Yes. - Is your father quiet too?
My father wasn't very quiet,
but he rarely...
talked to his family at home.
He grew up in that atmosphere.
Has he ever made a joke first,
- and made you laugh? - I don't think he has.
- Of course, he hasn't. - He hasn't?
- No. - She got surprised.
Has he ever made you laugh...
without saying anything?
- When he said, "Excuse me." - I knew it.
- Why did you say, "Excuse me"? - "Excuse me."
- You need to explain that to us. - It's hard to understand.
- Why did he say "Excuse me"? - He could've called her honey.
- Well... - It's like a historical drama.
I've never called her honey...
or by her name before.
- He's changed a lot. - After thinking for a long time,
as a joke,
- I called her as such. - "Hey" was supposed...
- to be a joke? - Yes.
That was a joke? You smiled for the first time.
What a joke.
Your wife would've fallen in love with you when you first met.
- Yes. - Didn't you talk to her then?
(What did you say to your wife then?)
I don't think I talked to her.
- At that time... - How did you two meet then?
- What did you call her then? - How could he not talk to her?
When I missed her,
- I just went to see her. - He went to see her.
- He went there. - He went there without saying?
- Without saying? - Women may find surprise visits...
- romantic like an event. - She'll think that he's cool.
- However, if it repeats... - He does that forever.
- forever without saying... - He does that without saying.
I think it'll be scary.
I have a question. When you first met and started dating,
you kissed each other.
You would've initiated it since you're a man.
What did you say?
"Your eyes are especially pretty today."
- Something like that. - I didn't initiate it.
- You didn't kiss her first? - She started it?
(Screaming)
(Love can bloom even at a war.)
- He's better than I. - There's always a way.
You've never heard him sing?
We haven't been to a karaoke yet.
We've also never been to a coffee shop.
- A coffee shop? - It's because they don't talk.
- They don't need to go. - They don't need to go.
I find it a bit uncomfortable to face each other.
- Uncomfortable? - You're a married couple though.
I find it a bit uncomfortable to face each other.
(They're married, but she finds it uncomfortable to face him.)
- How strange. - How can you live like that?
- What about when you argue? - He spoke with the one...
sitting beside him in between.
- She's my sister. She has a cute... - She's his sister-in-law.
personality, so she talks to him a lot.
This is how it is.
He has to talk to her because she is his sister-in-law.
He doesn't speak to her first, does he?
Of course not.
Let's meet him. Hello.
- Hello. - Hello.
Your brother-in-law is really quiet, right?
That's right. He's so quiet...
that I find my sister amazing to live with him.
- Exactly. - Before we introduced you,
your brother-in-law whispered something to you.
What did he say?
Many stories I heard today were new to me,
- so I asked him if they were true. - You asked your brother-in-law.
- He said, "Yes, yes". - "Yes, yes."
- That's what he said? - It was "Yes, yes".
(You really haven't been to a coffee shop?)
(I haven't.)
Sir, what do you do for living?
- I'm really curious. - Your wife really wants to hear it.
(Please tell me.)
- How big are the boilers? - Exactly.
- She'll find out after 12 years. - Exactly.
His occupation will be revealed.
She's mistaken.
- I'm working for a vacuum pump... - Excuse me?
- company. - A vacuum pump.
(You don't work for a boiler company?)
- When there's a defect, - You provide after service.
Yes, I do everything from disassembly to assembly.
I work in a department that fixes products with defects.
- He doesn't... - What are vacuum pumps used for?
In order to produce chips for semiconductors,
you need various kinds of gas. In order to go through the process,
vacuum pump must be used, not the air in the atmosphere.
- He's very professional. - He speaks very logically.
Why didn't you tell your wife about that?
I never thought that it would be...
- necessary to tell her. - I guess he found it unnecessary...
to tell her about such things.
(Hearing it makes me feel bitter.)
What is your position in the department?
I'm a team lead that supports a number of different teams.
- He supports others. - He speaks very logically.
- He's very accurate. - You're a great speaker.
Why don't you talk to her?
In this case,
I'm talking about what I do for living,
so it's easy to respond.
However, when there's something I don't know much about,
- I find it hard to talk... - He's not used to express...
- his emotions. - You're right.
(Her wife is not used to express his emotions.)
He could be quiet at other times, but what about urgent situations?
- What if your wife fell into water? - She fell into water.
It's an urgent situation where she got a cramp on her leg.
- I'd go into the water. - Right, but rather than going...
- into the water alone... - It's hard to take her out.
There are rescue workers, but they can't see her.
- I'd say, "Help me". - "Help me."
Why don't you yell?
- "Help me!" - Like this, "Help me"!
- You want me to yell? - Try.
- Try. - I want to hear it.
It's an urgent situation.
(Will he yell?)
- Help me. - My goodness.
"All right, I'll help you."
(Of course I'll help you.)
- How frustrating. - That was so calm.
How frustrating.
- One will respond to him like this. - Right, it's all relative.
I'm sure you'll be stressed out every single day,
but when were you most stressed out?
When my son was about 3 or 4,
- we went to Guam. - You travelled there.
He had a bad fever as soon as we went there.
- He was ill. - I didn't bring any medication,
so I had to go buy one. However, I didn't know the area.
With my broken English,
I said, "baby, very hot".
My husband kept his mouth shut for the whole period.
(Her husband sat back and said nothing.)
- Maybe he doesn't speak English. - Although your son was ill...
From what I know... I didn't verify it.
I don't even hear him speak, so I can't verify his English.
He manages to go abroad on business trips by himself.
And yet your husband did nothing beside you?
He wasn't even right beside us. He stayed a bit further away.
- He didn't care at all? - He just stood in a distance.
- Aren't you sorry? - Why did you do that? He was sick.
Why did you sit back and say nothing?
About saying nothing...
My wife is mistaken. She said that I speak good English,
but I don't.
You don't speak English.
(All the truths are being revealed.)
- I don't speak English. - You were mistaken?
I'm sure you know basic English though. How old are you?
I know how to say that.
- Try. How old are you? - Then...
43 years old.
- He's good. - Then...
Your wife also doesn't speak English,
- and your son was sick. - Exactly.
Shouldn't a man make a move?
Or you should both do so.
I'm a little slow.
She does things before I do, so I just follow her.
Or, since you hardly speak,
your wife takes care of everything.
- That's right. - You might find it convenient.
That's true.
You're so cheap.
That's why I asked earlier...
if he also doesn't speak with his son.
- He'd be curious about many things. - That's right.
- That's right. - Your son is here.
Let's hear what he thinks. Hello.
- Hello. - Hello.
You know why you're here, right?
- What do you think? - Well,
- it's very serious. - It's serious.
- What's serious? - Do you also not talk with him?
The conversations are really short, like the ones with my mom.
"Do this. Do that. What will you eat?"
- "Did you eat?" - That's about it.
Yes, I sort of gave up.
(I want to talk, but I sort of gave up.)
- You gave up right away. - What about playing?
Dads play with their sons.
Did your dad often play with you when you were younger?
I don't remember my childhood.
- Right, when you're young... - Does he not play with you still?
- You're still young. - Hey, you're still young.
- He doesn't remember. - How can you not remember?
He's talking about when he was a baby.
Were you ever upset because he doesn't talk?
Since he doesn't speak to me...
- yes. - It's...
The way you speak is also a bit frustrating.
- I think... - Well,
- if he played with him often... - That's right.
and stopped doing so, he would be upset,
- but he has no such experience. - It's always been the same.
His dad never chatted with him, and he never really bothered him.
- However... - That's normal to him.
What do you think? You heard your son.
Your son also finds it frustrating. He gave up on talking with you.
I do want to talk with him a lot,
- but... - Are you shy to do so?
What I'm worried about is...
that your son may become like you when he grows up.
- That's right. - He may do the same to his wife...
because he'll learn from you.
He's not only quiet. I think he doesn't bother moving.
- I feel so bad for him. - Since he doesn't speak much,
- he should at least play with him. - Yes, very.
He's of the same age as my son.
I heard that dads should play and talk with their sons often...
in order to build their social skills later on.
Tae Gyun, I think you played with your son way too often.
He was way too naughty.
He showed me a video of him last time,
and he was a bit too much. You should warn him.
His social skills have developed way too much.
- He's good at pointing out things. - Well,
when he was first born,
- how was he? I guess so. - I'm sure he was glad then.
I went through my postnatal recovery at my parents' place.
Since my mom knows my husband's personality,
she told him to go see our baby in the room.
She sent him to the room.
Curious about his reaction, she watched him through the window.
My baby was lying on the bed, and he was looking at him...
- like this. - He only looked at his baby.
- He only looked at him? - How did you feel when you saw him?
"Who do you resemble? You're adorable."
What does he mean by that?
- It's... - That's right.
"Hey, whose son are you?"
Your son dropped his head upon hearing that his dad...
only looked at him.
Deep inside, were you really glad to see your son when he was born?
I'm sure he was glad.
- Yes, I was glad. - Of course he was.
- He doesn't express. - It's because he never expresses.
Weren't you upset because he doesn't speak with your son?
My son is now 12, so he'll go through puberty soon.
Having conversation is crucial during puberty.
I'm afraid that their communication will be cut off by then.
Do you understand what your wife said just now?
Yes, I do.
Do you plan on talking with your son?
- I'll try... - Well...
- He's so nice. - It's so hard for him to talk.
You've never called her as "honey" or "darling" for 12 years.
- I know. - Since you're on a TV show,
- why don't you give it a try? - Please give it a try.
(I'm so nervous.)
He must be nervous.
Is he nervous?
- He rubbed his chest... - He seems nervous.
- out of frustration. - He's just shy.
Is there any nickname you thought of for your wife?
(Did you think of a nickname for her?)
I wish I could try every good nickname.
Maybe he thought of a unique nickname...
like "my sweet love, my honey"?
That's possible.
- Instead of a common nickname. - That's possible.
"Darling, my sweet darling!"
Could it be that he thought of a unique nickname for her?
- Let's try "honey" first. - Like "My honeybunch".
(He feels uncomfortable.)
(I've been waiting a long time for this moment.)
Honey.
(Romantic)
- Look at your wife. - That's romantic.
- My goodness. - She looks so happy.
They've been married for 12 years, and they have a child.
- Let's try "darling" this time. - She looks so happy.
Look at your wife's face.
(He'll call her darling while at it!)
- Darling. - Oh, gosh.
- Oh, gosh. - Why don't you...
Is this even possible? Is it true?
- It's hard for me to believe too. - Try to say it as if you call her.
- She's never heard it before. - "Honey."
Please try it again, and say, "My loving honey."
Raise your voice at the end instead of saying it like this. "Honey."
Think that no one else is here.
"Darling."
Think that no one else is here and give it a try.
- Say, "My loving honey." - "Honey."
Look at your wife.
(He seems determined.)
Honey, I love you.
- "Honey, I love you." - That's great.
Honey, I love you.
(She's smiling brightly.)
- Ms. Jung. - That sounds nice.
- It's the 1st time in 12 years. - It's my 1st time.
- How do you feel now? - Her problem has been solved.
I'm taken aback because it's my first time hearing it.
- It must be strange. - But you're happy, right?
- He won't say it again at home. - Exactly.
- He will. - How do you feel, Mr. Han?
You think you can do it again, right?
I feel more comfortable after trying once.
- Right. - It's so difficult.
You can call her honey at home.
Once you get used to it,
nothing is difficult to do in this world.
(Call her honey often from now on.)
Please say something to him for the last time.
Jin Seob, we have a long time left in our life.
We need to have conversations.
I hope you'll talk to me...
more often. If it's too difficult,
try to answer my questions more clearly,
- even if you just say yes. - More clearly.
- They must love each other deeply. - Both look like good people.
Do you think it's a worry?
- I think it's a worry. - Okay.
- I think it's a worry. - I see.
You think it's a worry.
- What about you, Jong Min? - I don't think it's a worry.
I don't think it's a worry either.
If you think it's a worry, please press the button.
(What does the audience think?)
- 5, 4, 3, 2, 1. - 5, 4, 3, 2, 1.
Please show us the result.
"I Am Frustrated".
Is it over 100 votes?
It's over 100 votes.
It's 124.
(She got 124 votes.)
- How do you feel? - I had a great time.
I learned a lot. You know that I didn't grow up in Korea, right?
Hearing those stories helped me...
- understand Korean culture. - That's right.
I think I'll be able to understand my family better too.
Jong Min, how do you feel?
- I learned a lot as well. - What did you learn?
- Tell us just one thing. - What did you learn?
What is it?
I learned that I shouldn't be like that.
- Be more specific. - What do you mean?
- Which guest are you talking about? - The quiet husband?
I should talk to my wife often.
I shouldn't be indifferent about my children.
I shouldn't be overly affectionate with my children.
- I learned a lot from them. - All right.
"Why Did You Get Married?" is this week's winner!
We will give the winner a prize money.
Congratulations!
Good work, everyone.